We are in our 30’s and a son 5. We’ve been married 8 years and BD was in March. Unfortunately, I left thinking I was doing the right thing because it was only supposed to be temporary. We did have a difficult life change and fought a lot. Our fights started in Sept and went through March.
We have always had an excellent marriage. We’ve always been so close, until the life event. I got the ILYNILWY when she asked for a separation. She was very adamant about needing time and space, even helping me find a place! She went to an attorney that next week, got temporary papers, then filed for divorce. We have had our temporary hearing already. Looking back, I remember text messages on the major holidays in the fall, being very secret with cell phone, not attentive to our family and no nagging!
Swears no one else, just needs time. But I do not believe her. With that said, we both come from very strong backgrounds and look down on anyone that would cheat. That’s really all I’ve got that make sure me think she’s not.
I decided to start working on myself before I found this site. I’ve lost about 30 lbs and want to lose about 10-20 more. I read books, go to IC and research as much as I can. She has not done anything, at all.
I hope that’s all the info you need. This is just devastating....
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Hey Hrt, welcome! As the others said we need more info, please read through some of the very first posts in the first threads of others here to get an idea of what we need to help you. Things like your age, her age, number and ages of children, number of years married, date of BD, separated or still under one roof, in same rooms or different, nature of BD, any big life changes that happened that might have precipitated BD, etc.
