Tit for tat will not get you where you want to be IHC. Kill her with kindness. You can do this without being a doormat. It sounds to me like you are trying to to fight fire with fire. That always results in a bigger fire.
Steve has the ability to say the same thing as me in 1/10th the words
Haha.. Ok. I just had a convo with the W about any misunderstandings. I interpreted her email like she wanted me to owe her something because she took off more days than me. Its clarified, handled, and resolved. I expressed my thoughts, she expressed hers, and although very different and mon agreeable, we agreed I don't need documentation from her for her FLMA days, this there is no positive outcome in getting legalistic, or getting tit for tat.
I really need to get over myself and my defensiveness and petty reactivity to potentially provoking situations when I feel threatened. Its a total waste of my time and energy that I xan be doing more productive things with. I am glad I held that email back. I can be calm during these situations, but very matter of fact. Im always waiting to get screwed because its what I have experienced somewhat throughout most of my life. It makes me very adamant and protective around those I no longer fully trust. Especially when it comes to employment, money, children etc...I've also seen my brother go through extremely volatile custodial battles and divorce for 16 years. So it has shaped me and my attitude to fight if necessary. Im still going to draw up a parenting plan.
Thanks guys for listening and your time and input.
