In addition to Sandi's wise counsel I'll just add that most WAW's feel their husband has not loved, honored and cherished them for quite some time anyway. So in their eyes, their husband is the one that broke their vows FIRST. So she very likely sees what she is doing as a REACTION to what you did.
Yep. Some of us even hear something like that come out of our wive's mouths.
^^^^ I have been told this verbatim by WAW that they are just reacting "to what we did" I didn't know that having a calm, civil, and logical argument in disagreement to someone's perception and feelings equated to "emotional abuse" and being "talked down to." Granted there were times I did raise my voice. I can see that past encounters before things went south, should have just validated W's feelings the best I could. I can now see after all I learned here how not validating can leave someone feeling unheard, and ignored. Guess that is why we learn to validate huh?
