Not appropriate over email, is my initial reaction. Maybe others will say otherwise, and have a point. But it seems like sitting down as two adult humans you could have a more constructive dialogue.
But all of this "1 day or 2 day owed" stuff comes across to me as just wrong. This is not a game. You aren't keeping score. It isn't a matter of owing days or not owing days. Most of the custody agreements I've seen around here have gone like this:
H: Gets S-Mon &Tue. W Gets Wed-thursday. H gets F-Sun everyother week, W gets F-Sun every other week.
If H or W need to swap days and it works then they can agree to do so. Otherwise if one needs the other to cover a day, and the other agrees, so be it. In the case where one can't cover their scheduled day, and the other is unavailable, other arrangements will need to be made by the parent who needs the coverage.
Most LBSs then view it like this: if she needs a day or more of hers covered, and I am free, GREAT! More kid time for me.
Most of the time these agreements are to protect custody time, not free time.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
