Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Steve,

I've been there man...I seriously thought my life was over and I didn't care about anything without my W. I lost it a lot, I could barely talk to the people who were there to listen. I was choking on words, pain in my head, heart, stomach and throat. Tears waiting on standby for the wrong song to play on the radio... I'm really sorry. I promise you things will get better.


Thanks for your perspective. S just happened, we said our goodbyes and now I'm at work. I'll come home to a dramatically different house.

I'm devastated, but it is what it is. I'd love to sit here and say that I took steve85's advice and presented myself as a rock, but I didn't. I couldn't hold it together at all.

She's rewriting so much history, it's almost scary. Misinterpreting things that I've done and said, assigning feelings to me that simply aren't there. She's doing that while simultaneously accusing me of rewriting history, romanticizing our relationship and ignoring the problems. She's probably right about that, though.

The acceleration towards the BD and S still surprises me, but she says she's been unhappy for a while and I just didn't read it or take it seriously. I was operating under the view that she must have had a PA or EA to really kickstart things, but she pushed back again against that, really hard. I've never, ever caught her in a lie so I think she's being honest here. It doesn't make it any easier though - she's been unhappy and our communication patterns weren't enough to resolve it. And that really hurts.

As I've said before, the plan doesn't change. GAL, detach, be the best man I can be. But today is going to be the bottom of the valley.

Last edited by SteveS; 06/21/19 02:21 PM.

Me: 37, WAW: 32
T: 7.5, M: 2.25
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BD: 5/19/19, S: 6/21/19