Hey Destroyd I feel you man, it makes me want to 180 on it but at this point idk if it will help.
LH thanks for the honesty, yeah it should be a happy time forsure. I guess she’s just throwing me breadcrumbs with the flirting and the s*x. When she was thinking I had moved on and had a girlfriend was when she pursued me the most. So it makes sense.
IHC haha that’s okay I feel your post applies here too. She has said that hit list multiple times since BD and yeah I guess she’s saying that to make herself feel better and more justified about leaving. Am I just supposed to validate these hit lists or shut them down as I’ve heard it enough?
Thanks all
I have made the mistakes of apologizing and justifying too often and frequently in my sich. I think the point on how to handle "the justifications" list is. Address it and apologise once and only once if possible. Don't argue, just listen. Change what you have the control and power to change. Your words mean nothing to them, and your actions mean everything. Now if I could only take theirs and my own advise.. Lol.. Slowly.. One day at a time.
