Yeah that’s why I always advise just because there being nice and acting normal to not think anything changed. The sex started one night when we attended my daughters Cheerleading banquet and they had an open bar look. Went home and one thing lead to another. The thing was I never said anything. Got up went for a run and then left for the day. It had been about 7 months of zero relationship talks so zero pressure. After the last time getting punched in the nuts I was never going to let that happen again. I truly think she had doubts in the end but it had gone to far. She bought a house told her parents and spent a lot on lawyer fees.
When we told the kids like most things in the process it wasn’t as bad as I imagined. My ex cried and my daughter cried. My son didn’t say much. My daughter asked if we would ever get married again and my ex responded “I don’t know”. My kids struggled a little early on but have adjusted fine the last 6 months. My ex and I are very amicable we sit together at games and events and I’ll joke with her sometimes. I don’t get personal with her but will talk about kids, weather etc.
If she came to me today to reconcile I’m not sure what I would do. I feel I should at least have one relationship first to see if I just want what I can’t have. Been dating for about 9 months but nothing lasted more then 3-4 dates. Not sure if I’m too picky or not ready or what’s up. I just made a date while typing this out lol. I will never ever pursue her. If it were to happen she would have to come to me and meet certain conditions for reconciliation. Again I think she gave up a lot, spent a lot of money and burned a lot of bridges to admit she was wrong after 11 months.
RESPECT is the key. If your ex has it for you then you will have a chance. It’s just probably not going to happen on your timeline.
Workout, read to learn and get to know and fall in love with yourself and the rest will work itself out. There are a lot of great things about being single. Enjoy them. Get outside your comfort zone. I promise you that you won’t regret it.
