I have tried to show him I am there for him and he is feeling safer to call when he needs a shoulder or a voice when he is low, but unless something drastic happens and he seeks therapy for himself, he is not my guy. The glamour of co-dependence is off. I still love him and am still there for him, but I see a sad little boy who just wants connection to people, but doesn't know what to ask for other than "please play with me." He will not allow people in to his emotions and guards them strongly or pushes them away.
I could have wrote this word for word. It's so sad - what the MCLr wants the most (validation through strong emotional connections), they run away from the fastest. In my Hs sitch, he looks for his validation in all the wrong places, and it just makes him fell worse in the end.
