Want to thank you for pointing me to sandi's list. I stopped the behaviour that was deemed "needy" and I have to say I've noticed the difference. I also read someone on this forum who pointed out about being the first to end a conversation or to leave a room. I've adopted some of that too. And lastly, do something different. I love it and I have. I hate cooking but I forced myself. The validation was when the kids said it was better than Mum's. Different indeed!
I've noticed repeated attempts to bring up the future (without me of course) but I avoid all talk or just agree with her feelings. In any event I read the list every morning so I'm conscious of what I need to do.
In any event I love everyones advice here. Thank you so much for helping me push through. It's exhausting to continually plan my actions knowing it mightn't even work out. But there are always little signs I can see which gives hope.
