Mixed bag. I certainly let her lead the conversations and validated. She opened to me quite a bit about how she was thinking and got emotional. Unfortunately, so did I. Probably too much. It's really, really tough. The love of my life is leaving, and it's impossible for me not to get choked up when I think about things like our wedding day.
She's dead set on a separation agreement, which she is framing under the logic of "I want it out of the way so we can focus on the more important work, which is healing and understanding what we want." Sure, I can somewhat buy that. I did point back that it's basically a D, just without the file, to which she said she's not thinking about that right now, only what's in front of us.
There's a huge sticking point ahead of us though: she pointed out that when we were naive and in the throes of love, I had said that I viewed marriage as a partnership and everything gets split 50/50, and would be willing to get pre/post-nups as such. I honestly did not know at the time that the split is only for assets gained during the marriage - because why else would Anna Nicole Smith marry that old dude - and now I do. Of course, she is still expecting that and I just can't grant that with the level-headed clarity I have today. Without getting into unnecessary detail, I sold my company right before we got engaged (I know what you're thinking -- they're unrelated), one that I started before I even met her. This is going to be a huge fight, and I don't see how it's not going to destroy all chances of reconciliation.
S day is Friday. It's going to be a tough ride for the near future.
