Can I Save My Marriage Alone?

[CanBird]

Im glad that he was able to view the video! It was a good thing that you sent it. Not because you are looking for a reaction or thanks, but because its the right thing to do.

Try to spend more time asking 'am I ok?' vice 'is he ok?, 'what is he thinking?' We all do it I suspect, but it lends you no peace and no answers; I know that for sure. We all want to know the 'why' but rarely will ever get anything of truth during this time. I am never sure if my W is telling me the truth or making another attempt to manipulate me and take advantage of my kind nature.

Ive received more than 4 different answers about something simple on multiple occasions. Immediately after filing for D, W said she was taking the kids on a ski vacation. She didn't wind up going. First it was because I cancelled her car insurance(I didn't). Then it was because she didn't have enough money. Then it was because her mom wouldn't let her borrow a 4WD SUV. Then it was because her new friends that were going with her backed out. Probably all shreds of truth but can't believe anything they say.

Keep up the GAL with your daughter, it is good for both of you!

Thank you LB for the great advice, "Try spending more time asking 'am I okay?' and keep up the GAL with my daughter.

And yes, sending things to H for Father's Day was all for him from d3, because it was the right thing to do.

*I'll have to read your posts a bit later in detail.... gotta get my GAL on