W will exhibit those teenager behaviours until she grows out of it. Yep, hours and hours of videos, music, surfing, or whatever. My four “actual” teenagers all did stuff like that. Eventually they emerged from their safe bedrooms, or hidden lair - whichever they needed at the time.
Hours of mind numbing noise. And that is the point. They, teens or MLCers, have stuff they need to work through and quelling the mind helps. For some it is more of escaping. To get away from pressure from a parent or a spouse, or themselves. They distract themselves from what they have done or what they need to do.
I watched three of my boys rebel against me and hide out - distract themselves from the @ss they were being. Eventually each one in their own time made amends with me and grew significantly at that point, one could see the change in them.
And some times it’s just to stop focusing on stuff too much. Like how answers present themselves when one stops pushing for them. I think it is all linked, no one is just “one” way.
Originally Posted by bpd
How the heck is supposed to take on her issues if she keeps drowning them out?
For irrational emotional issues that is how you take on the issues. Remember these are big issues, crisis proportion, something you and I (thankfully) have only an appreciation of how dark and deep the torment actually goes.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
