Suzy, I agree with Steve, your priority should be in protecting you and the kids rather than trying to lure your H back. If you know of multiple EA and 1 PA then it's a safe bet there are many more you don't know about. Most cheaters will never give up their cheating ways, so I don't see him repenting of that unless he truly hits rock bottom and realizes he has destroyed his life.
I also agree with Steve that he should NOT be allowed into your bedroom, in fact I think your first inclination of not letting him come home at all was the right one. Let him deal with the inconvenience of a hotel room, that's on him for leaving you.
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I think that the MLC happened after his friend was killed by a driver, while he was riding his bike. He was never the same after he attended the funeral that was 4 years ago.
Could be, but my response to that is that he is a grown-ass man that should know better than to wreck his family over the loss of someone close. If that's how he conducts his grief management then he is a hot mess.
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I'm actually reading that section about online activity in DR right now and I was always told that "I'm insecure" "everyone does it" and that "it's normal".
Sure everyone does it, but "normal" is looking now and then. If he's spending a lot of time looking at porn then he is addicted and that is most definitely not normal and should not be acceptable to you.
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He thinks that he has no issues to resolve.
Exactly why you need to leave him be. He's got to figure out YOU are not the problem, HE is. And that might take him a long while.
Don't worry about the distance, that's actually a good thing. The more he's away from you the more he will realize you're not the source of his problems.
