(((Madaju))) Unfortunately, there is not much you can do to force your H to change his behaviour or plans. He's going to do what he's going to do. All you can do is manage your own thoughts, feelings and behaviour and try to get to a place of detachment and acceptance that your MR is over...at least for now. It completely s*cks what he is doing to your D as she will most likely think he is leaving because of something she did or didn't do. That's how kids are. Everything that happens is about them. Just keep reinforcing to her that none of this is her fault and that her daddy still really loves her but has to leave for work purposes. I know that's not exactly the reality but at her age, it's all she really needs to know at this point. If this turns into a permanent move, you can cross that bridge when you get there. For now, though, you really need to focus on you. Returning to therapy is a great idea. Ramp up your GAL activities too and reach out to friends and family. Try to spend more time with other adults and start living your life as if he is already gone. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and fake it until you make it. I know how awful this is Madaju. I felt the same way when my STBXH moved out. It was beyond painful. But the pain does not last if you do not dwell on it. I promise that it does get better with time. (((HUGS)))
