That sounds good Alison, glad to hear you're not letting him manipulate you again! Stick with it!
Regarding flipping the switch, I think that does happen a lot, especially with LBW's. They try and try and try to appease their wayward H to lure him back but at some point they realize they are wasting their time and he's not going to change until he hits rock bottom, which he never will as long as she remains his Plan B. So they shut the door and focus completely on themselves and the kids. You might backslide a few more times but I think you're coming out of the LBS fog.
