It's been a couple of months since I last wrote, but a lot has happened. My H came home from his work trip and has been staying at a "friends" house. He know has lots of friends and goes on trips and adventures with them. He has never been like this. It's quite upsetting since he has never wanted to do these things us. He is being so selfish and careless. All my daughter does is ask for him, and I look like the bad guy because he shows up whenever is convenient for him and I have to tell him that he can't do that.I have expressed to him that I too have a life; I have a full time job and go to school, and of course I am a mom of a 1 y/o and 8 y/o. He does absolutely nothing for the children and he blames me for it. Honestly, I'm still detaching but it's hard when I have to deal with him even if it's just for the children. I try to not argue with him in front of my D, but sometimes I just can't with his stupidity and selfishness ... I know this is my fault too, but I am so hurt, for me and my children. Every time I see my daughter sad my heart breaks. I'm going back to IC and also taking my D back to therapy. On top of this, my H is moving to another country in a few months. My D knows this too, but hasn't asked any questions about it. I wish I didn't have to deal with him, but unfortunately I have. Has anyone dealt with this? I really need advice...
