Give her as much space as you can afford. She told you those things about feeling ignored after the fact, not because she wanted to work on things with you and change them, but because she is done and it justifies her actions to say her "hit list" of reasons to you. Cook around her, but not together with her or for her, unless she does it for you first. Return the favor if she does you one. Cook for yourself and kids. If she wants to make convo, listen, validate, etc. allow it. Took me 7 months to just realize that dynamic and interactions should consist of even give and take. No more, no less. You give what you get. You get distance, you give it, etc, Nothing is given away for free, not your time, your emotions, your labor, or division of things, resources, kids, etc.
Was recalling from 7 months ago. W said "Im not leaving you, just want space and IHS." Well after I reclaimed the MBR that changed into "I want to sell the house and be seperated, and divide all assets and responsibilities." Believe none of what they say and half of what they do.They can change their minds on a dime for all different reasons, so you have to constantly adapt to the current sich and action, not the past ones. Sorry I was replying to Destroyed. Wrong thread
