I don't know how people do it. It's just so painful right now. That was only two years ago.
It is hard and painful. More painful when you think about how we see all this happening but are helpless to stop it with no control
Originally Posted by SteveS
I also realized that I still don't have a great explanation for why this is happening, although I guess it's irrelevant because it's happening whether I like it or not.
This is the hardest part. In my sitch exW herself does not have an explanation for why this is happening except that she is unhappy and feels the need to get away from me to be happy again
Originally Posted by SteveS
My understanding is that a legal separation is the equivalent of a divorce, in that you come to a legal agreement regarding support and how assets are divided, yet you are not formally divorced and thus can retain some of the marriage benefits, such as health insurance.
In their mind the MR is dead. It is surprising how they can almost be cold hearted in approaching things with the split with respect to money. Almost as if all there is no emotion left for all these years of love and togetherness in the MR
RIGHT? Trust me it gets pettier and pettier once the finances split. Once that snowball gets rolling its going to get tit for tat with everything from the garbage to the dishes to the lawn care to the recycling to the food and to the child care. You feel so removed and things being so petty and cold by their actions while they attempt to maintain niceties to your face that you will start to ask yourself? Does she treat her family, friends, strangers with more compassion? DONT LET THEM CAKE EAT. LIKE FOR LIKE TRADE FOR TRADE WORTH FOR WORTH.
