Dilly 2.1 part 5

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[I think the part of what you wrote that I've quoted above is incredibly unhealthy. You like having a feeling of control - knowing you could refuse him if he doesn't behave nicely enough. You are trying to teach him to be polite. I think you're been really really honest with yourself here and it's impressive and not easy. But I know I've learned that honesty about unhealthy actions and motivations is worth nothing unless it inspires a change.

Alison is right. And it's very tempting to weld what little control we think we have, but it's an illusion. The reality is we haven't had control over anyone or anything but ourselves.

You have to decide for yourself if you really want a man that you feel you have to make treat you right. I've tried everything in the past to make my H be better to me, but the only way he's going to do that is I stop accepting anything less.



so sorry I hijacked your thread, thought I was on my own!!! BCAGD club!! T-shirts!! When we get better we can put big read x's across it!!