Hamburg is absolutely correct...if she is still having an affair, be it physical or emotional, she is in replay. Emotional affairs are very difficult to break and it will take some time for that to wind down because it is more on the emotional/mental side of things and not just a purely physical one.
She may opt to remain in the home because it is more beneficial to her because of finances or it could be that you aren't putting undue pressure on her or her affair partner is not ready to move forward and have her move in w/him. Whatever the reason, you will need to let her be and keep the focus on you.
Time will tell just where she's at, but she is still in replay and it appears that the deep, dark depression and withdrawal have not begun.
Keep the focus on you and allow her to continue to work on herself...be sure to what your finances closely.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
