My H and I are both Active Duty military and he took an assignment 2 years ago that I agreed to because he said it was the best for him to be set for after retirement. It turned out that he did it to get away from me, but the plan for for all of us to go together. It's been almost 2 years since he left. He has been back in the area multiple times since, he has always stayed with me and our 2 kids, playing house. Then when he would go back to his duty station he would be radio silent...

He served me with D papers last Nov. right after we returned from all being together in WDW. He said he had to because he didn't want me to think that we were okay just because we took a family vacation. The day I got the D papers I had to take our S-10 to the ER because he had a detach retina. The Big D had been on the back burner until Mar of this year when I went to get a settlement agreement, bc he tried to do No-fault & I didn't think that was fair considering we had 2 children.

I have not received anything back from him and it's been months since I sent him the paper work. Fast forward to now. H will be in the area I am (for work) so he initially said he would take 4 wks vacation to spend time with the kids. Initially I told him it wouldn't be best for him to stay with me and the kids anymore, then he shortened his vacation to 2 weeks after I told him that (due to costs for hotel, car). I prayed about it and told him that he could stay with me, but I really wanted him to still take the kids to see his family out of state for 2 weeks.

I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I know that it's the only opportunity I have to show up, since he lives so far away and we don't really communicate otherwise. The other times that he had stayed with us he acts like we are still married at times, cooking/cleaning, driving when we go somewhere. For the most part I get him set up in a spare bedroom, but a few times he's ended up in mine and it really confuses things, at least for me.

Prior to this, we had a lot of issues. H had multiple EA and 1 PA that I know of. We went to MC and she was the best.
She gave me DB in one of my private sessions. He always frequently viewed sites on the internet... I'm pretty sure he still does.

I think that the MLC happened after his friend was killed by a driver, while he was riding his bike. He was never the same after he attended the funeral that was 4 years ago.

I also think that it's important to mention that after he left I didn't really practice DB, didn't GAL, I did the opposite for almost 2 years, I gained quite a bit of weight. Is it too late now to start DB?

Thanks if you made it through this and I apologize if the flow it choppy,
Suzy