AS, thank you. You are right that I should count my blessings that my wife is not abusing me like many of the other spouses here. I need to remember this!
I really am trying to GAL and detach. I am definitely giving her much more space. Every night, I tuck the kids into bed, and then I go to the MBR and read. She has all day and night to herself now. The only time we hang out is when I get home from work where we cook together and eat dinner as a family. I hope this gives her the space she needs, but I am scared that the "space" she is requesting isn't really about fixing herself, but is instead just to get me away from her. We have so much to be grateful for, I can't believe this is the life that she wants.
I will not give up on her or my marriage. So, I will give her the space she needs, while keeping love in my heart for her. It is so tough not to get angry at how I am being treated. But, I continue to pray that God gives me the love, wisdom and discipline necessary to win my W's love back.
Detaching is hard!! Last night my wife was upset that my mom doesn't answer her calls and asks whether my mom is mad at her. Does she really think my mom wouldn't be mad at her breaking her son's heart? It boggles my mind that she hasn't thought about how this will affect our family. She is only thinking about herself.
