I didn't say a word to her about any of it. I just asked the question about whether or not he gets in trouble at school for talking. I come here to vent at times but I am a very diplomatic person and would never say anything to her.
She is not a total pushover, she tried to correct him and pulled him aside at times but he didn't seem to listen to her and really even me until he was told 3 or 4 times. She would say "no" and he kept asking and pushing to get his way. I eventually had to get a little stern with him about unhooking the raft. It got his attention rather quickly. I tried to explain that the kids needed to stay close to the boat for safety reason but he kept on wanting to unhook it to go explore. It just wasn't safe. The Dr. was on the boat talking to people so she wasn't aware.
My parents think he was over excited, the Dr. says he does this all the time. He might have ADHD but she has never told me that and I would never ask her either. She said he has always been this way, since he was old enough to talk.
I am sure some times she is wore out since she has him 90% of the time. She took him to a water park on Saturday by himself, just her and him so I know she cares. She is a really good person. It could have something to do with lack of socialization with other kids outside of school. The kid has not had a sleepover yet and it doesn't sound like he has many play dates either. He does do cub scouts, his dad did take him on a weekend camping trip last month so he obviously interacted with other kids there.
I think the nanny has been around for a while. The Dr. comments that she is judge mental of the way she parents. Obviously I have only seen her in action twice for limited periods. I didn't get the sense she wanted to hover over him either. He wakes up every morning at 6 am, the Dr. tells him he can't come downstairs until 615. She gets him to school by 7:15 every morning so she can go to her office and get things squared away for the day. She gets home at 6:30 every night...her office closes at 5:30 then she goes to the gym for 45 min after work. Then he is asleep by 7:30 so their time is limited. The Dr's mom does live close so he will go spend the night with Grandma every other week especially on the nights we go out. So it very well could be wanting attention.
The Dr. texted me last night and told me he was asking when he was going to see my girls again so I assume he had fun! He asked me quite a few questions, so I get in the water with the kids, helped him get a few toys squared away, he wanted to play and be involved with everything. Since his mom didn't know everyone or had been on the boat herself before it all fell on me to help get the activities squared away. He had no problems asking me either. She kind of just turned him loose, checked on him a couple of times but for the most part she just let him be. It wasn't like she was hovering over him waiting on him hand and foot.
So it's hard to say but yes I will just wait and watch.
