Hang in there, this is a big transition to go through!
Thank you AS. I have been really depressed the past few days. As much as I had detached from W it is hard to cope when the family officially breaks into two.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
It sounds like your W is acknowledging your changes and that is GOOD! This soon it's not unusual for to take the "it's too little too late" attitude. But that can and probably will change later. With time she may very well decide the best thing in her life was who she left behind.
I agree it is probably too soon at this point given it has only been 6 months since I started my 180s and maybe only 3 months of DB efforts. My strength broke down and I did end up having a heated emotional discussion with her a few days ago but eventually picked myself up again and started acting contented in front of her even if I was still broken on the inside. The encouraging thing is she is no longer angry with me and is respectful in her conversations. There is no OM in the picture. But we have made two big transitions with the D and I am losing hope of R because her mind seems made up. Let us hope with the space she gets now she has time to reconsider her decision.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
The real question is by the time it takes her to get to that point, will you still be interested. Often the answer is "no".
The D in my mind only meant paperwork for legal and financial matters. I am no different from the other standers otherwise. My kids are the only reason I am still standing at this time. Still not planning to date anyone else or move forward with my life other than GAL but it depends on how much time she really takes. At some point life forces you to move in another direction even if you dont plan on it.
