U, sorry you are going through this. I know how you feel. I am a few months ahead of you in my sitch and it only seems to get worse. Sometimes I wonder if I should just give up and other times I have lost my will to DB and let W know how I feel. Makes me feel better short term, I know it is wrong to get emotional but it is hard to stay strong all the time. The one thing I have tried to do is not hold on tight to the rope even if I dont drop it. I see it slip through my fingers, grasp it for a moment and let go again. While not DB by the book I at least DB 90% of the time. It is hard to go through this when our lives have focused on putting W and kids first. It hurts a lot to see if also being demolished to pieces and not being able to do anything about it. There is no winning for anyone here