OK. I appreciate the honesty. I guess I'm just reading too much into things. She texts me first, pretty much every day. She went on a trip, she brings me back a small gift. I come home, she's made me fresh squeezed juice. I see her going about her day, she's obviously troubled and looking upset.
But I get your point. I can't mind read. I can't assume anything other than what is in front of me, which is that by this time next week, she will be moved in to her new place and we will be separated. The truth hurts.
All done out of guilt for what she is doing to you. We see this a lot, where a WAW/WW will become nicer to the LBH has their departure is closer. It is called "not burning bridges", and "making sure plan B is firmly in place". This is why DBing is so effective. When she sees you moving on she more than likely will panic. You are her safety net, DBing will show her she is about to jump onto a trapeze without her safety net to catch her.
GAL like madman. Detach (make sure you know what this really means.) Then show her your 180s at every chance you get (just don't go out of your way to make opportunities). NO EXPECTATIONS!
Fair enough. Denial is a powerful thing.
I know in my head that everything I'm learning here is true. I need to use this time to improve myself, GAL, and become a better man regardless of what happens. This will not defeat me. It will make me stronger, and a better partner.
I will study as much as I can about detachment as a to-do. One thing I distinctly recall is that back in my college days, when the girl I thought was the one at the time (amazing how things change!) and I broke up, I went completely radio silent and licked my wounds. Over time, she reached out multiple times over to check-in, see how I was doing, and even invite me to hang out. By that time I was over it and moved on, but the power of that detachment made her curious and turned the power dynamic to the other side.
Any specific tips on detachment are greatly appreciated. Separation is in a few days, and it's going to get worse before it gets better.
