Goddess, Alison is right, it's all just cheap talk to try and keep you on the hook as Plan B. Be much more brief in your replies:
H: I Think more of you than you know I do appreciate everything you do for our kids I hope you know that
Me: Thank you (this is good)
H: Ur welcome : I mean it :Might not mean anything or you might not believe me , but I do love you I hope you know that :I may have said otherwise in the past but that wasn't true :Always feel like you ignore me now
Me: Im sorry you feel that way. : Ignoring you isnt my intent, but pulling back to protect myself while you made your choices felt best for me to heal
(first part is OK, second part unneeded)
H: I do : Made my choices of what : I dont even know what my choices are any more
Me: You chose another life besides the family. You chose another woman
(don't reply to junk like this, just silence)
H: I never have or never will chose another family : An I dont want you to think i chose another woman or anyone or anything : You really think I've gave up everything?? : Think I'd be upset that you ignore me : Think I'd still think about you an us
Me: It definitely seems like you gave us up and chose someone else : Thats how it felt
(Again, not worth replying to)
Keep your responses brief, to the point, businesslike, unemotional. Try and limit to discussions to coparenting topics and nothing more. If he includes emotional spew then just ignore it.
