Moving on

[Dawn70]

I agree with you, juju, that different perspectives can be a very good thing. They help us learn and grow because others have different experiences and can lend us valuable information that they have gained through what they have gone through.

I guess I'm struggling a bit with love being a choice. Love is absolutely an emotion. Now, maybe I agree more than I realize and I'm just letting semantics get in the way, but I think the emotion of love should be tempered with choices and decisions. For the most part who you love and how much you love is a choice, but the basis of love is an emotion, at least in my mind. I'm not trying to start a debate or anything and everyone is entitled to their opinion, but that is how I see it. Love can be fleeting, but I think fleeting love is usually more about lust. I may be misunderstanding what you and Don mean when you say love is a choice, but finding love is not like going to the supermarket to buy T-bone steak and coming out with ground beef. Sure, you have to use your brain and actually THINK about things when it comes to love, but you also have to feel them. You talked about choosing your XH based on things that made logical sense, but you don't talk about how you felt about him. Did you love him and those logical things were a bonus or did he logically seem like he'd be a good husband so love developed later? Does that even make sense? LOL This is why I'm struggling with love being a choice. I'm not saying you and Don or wrong or even that I necessarily disagree with you. I'm just trying to understand your point.

As far as OLD, I think you have to do what works for you. You have mentioned several times that you don't want to date several at once and I totally get that. I have never been one to date or talk to a lot of guys at once and the one time in my life I was getting attention from more than one person at a time, it was actually kind of overwhelming for me. Just proceed with caution and you'll be fine. Enjoy it, but keep your guard up.