It made me think of a time where we had a relatively large fight - I was in the wrong, she caught me in a very dumb lie the details of which are not worth getting into - but when she said something along the lines of "I can't ever trust you, it's over", I literally did a 180 in the street and started walking in the other direction. This called her bluff and she ran to me, saying she was sorry she said that.
Given that and above maxim, wouldn't the logical continuation of that line of thinking be to serve *her* D papers as a consequence of her asking for a separation? It sounds risky as hell, but it's same principle, right?
It's not uncommon for LBS's to come up with similar thoughts, but the factor that you're not including is that in your earlier example, she was your loving wife and you were having an argument. In the later example she is a WAS and no longer wants to have ANYTHING to do with you. So if the two of you were walking along NOW arguing and you turned and walked the other direction, she would keep on walking and never look back. Her way of thinking has changed that much.
Unchien is right, don't do anything just to get a reaction out of your W. That is exactly what a covert contract is, which as you already pointed out is a NGS trait that you need to work to get rid of.
Fair enough. Thank you.
One thing that troubles me: a lot of the conversation on here seems to be very black and white, as if it's either "she's in love and everything is great" or "she no longer wants to have anything to do with you". Surely there exists a lot of situations in the middle, no?
To be clear, I don't disagree at all that the #1 thing I should be doing (and am doing) is getting a life, working on myself, and letting her go. That is true agnostic of the situation. But I also feel like in the seven years we've spent together, I know her like the back of my hand, and if she was truly 100% done, she'd be done.
