Goddess, I am posting through what I have learned from others here, rather than my own experience. I've not done so well at DBing until more recently, and my situation is different from yours.
But I think words are cheap, texts are even cheaper, and if he was choosing you, you would know it through action. He can tell you he thinks highly of you and that he loves you and that he didn't choose another woman or family, but what do his actions suggest?
I think he's spooked that you're not as responsive as he wants you to be. He can no longer count on you to be plan B. If he wanted to repair things, he would be actively repairing them from his side, though actions.
