Alison, I am very worried about you. I think you should be very afraid of your H and you are not. He is extremely abusive, and I've seen too many men like him that started out with verbal and emotional abuse and later escalated to physical abuse. He is a loose cannon and one of these days he will explode and someone is going to get hurt, either you or one of the kids. Just be very careful. I agree with Ginger, no more walks or talks, no more having him over. You need to establish some hard boundaries to keep you and the kids safe. You keep saying you will, but then a few days later you'll post that he came over for dinner and such. It really needs to stop unless and until he gets some in-depth counseling and (hopefully) medication.
