I read that article. As a woman, and a feminist, and as someone who was the breadwinner for our family while my H was a SAHD (but the two of us otherwise pretty much conform to 'Mars and Venus' type stereotypes in our emotional lives and ways of doing relationships) it doesn't really chime with my experience. All this talk of economy and marketplace might be useful when looking at the ways people live their economic lives, and yes, marriage is in part a social and economic arrangement.
But when it comes to thinking about the ways that two individuals, both of them shaped by a society that has stereotyped views of both men and women that harm both men and women and limit their freedoms to be who they really are, I think it's a really quite superficial view.
It doesn't really matter, does it, if someone has a theory that most women are driven to marriage because of the status it apparently offers, and that most women drive divorce because they've been culturally influenced by books and articles saying that divorce will make them happy? What matters is the way your own shortcomings have damage your marriage, the way your wife's shortcomings have damaged your marriage, and what you do about yourself from here on out.
I believe most humans get into partnerships because they want connection. I also believe most women are as different from each other as most men are. And I believe that there is no true intimacy without freedom - neither party acting dishonestly or manipulatively - and without equality.
