In my own situation

W finds it much easier to know and articulate what she does not like

It is a step in a long journey, a positive one

I think it goes over a multi year period:

I am very unhappy with my life

I am going to try the opposite of whatever I was doing

I do not like X

I do like Y

At some point, I imagine they start thinking about others

But think the empathy chip may be the last piece of the puzzle


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving