Destroyed. You may want to read what just posted in Uni's thread. I get what you are saying, I understand your hurt, your resentment, and your failed expectations about every hope and dream being destroyed. The bbq's the kids, the hard work in your home. The vacations, the intimate moments, the way you wanted to see your family grow. All of those things. I think men see their marital happiness much different than some women IMO. We cherish good memories and want more of them for our families and W's. I think the W's see it a bit different. They see the future from current circumstances based in their current feelings. Very different perceptions and attitude of time. You have to be at peace with yourself and your current circumstances, and just accept it, and keep moving forward. We cannot control another persons current feelings, decisions, perception, and thinking, but we can possibly influence them with good actions. Lean into it if you can help it. But I understand the defensiveness and hurt because of W's current decisions. You feel betrayed in trust I bet? I'm guilty of it too, but we need to move past it and accept things. Or we are never going to heal.
