Moving on

[DonH]

I'm feeling like I'm just about the only person who questions or challenges things here lately. I mean the reason this board was started was to help people with Rs - not just support anything and everything they want to do. But when I read things like:

There are no guarantees in life. We could all die tomorrow. Do what makes you happy today and worry about tomorrow....tomorrow. Pay attention to that inner voice...and have fun!!! We deserve it after all the SH*T we’ve been through. (((HUGS)))

Does that not sound like something a wayward or walk-away wife would say - or husband? It's my time, screw tomorrow, I want to do what makes me happy today regardless. I've suffered enough and now it's my time.

What happened to love is not a feeling it's a choice and a decision? It seems like even after learning all of this some of us are right back to love being all about feelings and how it makes us feel - back to thinking from the heart not at all from the head.

Most certainly we need to be happy in life but again is that not what someone says when they want to get away from their spouse and don't want to face any truths? Yes we could die tomorrow but most of us won't and then we are going to be saddled with the decisions we made to be happy in the moment for the day without thinking about the future. I think we need to have a balance of this. It's not all black and white but when i start seeing actions like those of WW and WAW it really gives me concern as to did we not learn anything through DB? DB certainly doesn't teach us these things - or does it? Did I miss that chapter?