Yes, I think I will. I agree that reading other people's sitches and seeing the parallels makes it much easier to see the negative patterns and the crap you put up with from your own H. I took ds1 to his activity and then he started getting a migraine. So I left him in the car and went to the restaurant with ds2 and H. Ds1 joined us for a bit but wasn't really up to it. We played cards and had quite a good time, nice food and I was bright and breezy and good company. If H doesn't like that then there are plenty of men who find it attractive, there was a man nearby who kept eyeing me up and smiling in my direction. The kids gave H a card which ds1 had very sweetly ordered online, but then they couldn't really be bothered writing anything in it. I could tell that H was disappointed after opening it. What did he want to see? 'Thanks so much dad for running away and abandoning us'? Seriously. The fact that they even deign to spend time with him should humble him beyond words at how nice they are. Then we left and I drove the kids home and giggled with ds2 about stuff and then was reading something to him earlier and laughing my head off. I felt sad that H is so lost but it's him stuck in his tornado and me keeping my distance. I have GAL planned for Monday-Thursday and then I'm thinking about going away next weekend with a camping group if the weather is ok. If H is expecting me to be sitting here waiting for him next weekend then he will be in for a surprise.
