Dilly 2.1 part 5

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That's the problem when we get fluffy when they are soft and sweet.

I really suggest you go dark. Just wrote this to Alison, as well. We three are on parallel courses and when I read your sitch it sounds like mine, and it's easier to see...Hey! She should NOT be putting up with that! So then I want to take my own advice.

In my mind when I go dark it 'feels' like I am abandoning him, but reading the book, it's supposed to feel counterintuitive and if I ever have any hope of a good R with H, then I must back away, save myself, and let him go on his journey.

All of our H's are miserable. We have to accept that they will continue to grumble at us as long as we are close enough to listen.

Take a step back and ask yourself, what would you tell your dear friend to do in this situation? Read your post again from a different perspective and pretend someone you love, or one of your kids wrote that. You might find that the best advice you already know, it's just a little scary.

Dim those lights, girl and drop the rope. It's not as bad as you imagine. The scary part is imagining what will happen, not what actually happens.