Making the best of the mess.

[97Hope]

Hi Canbird!

Funny I was just commenting on AlisonUK's post about this very thing.

H moved out Feb1. I realized that worrying about his drinking was affecting me more than him, so I kept my mouth and opinions to myself.

I ended up having to tell our youngest S17 that he was not to get into the vehicle with H if he had alcohol in the car because H thought it was ok to drive and drink "just beer". I tried to talk to H first about it and it was a nightmare.

Beyond driving with S in car, I completely ignored it.

Weeks/months (not sure which) later, H started commenting about his own drinking. Telling me he stopped crying a cooler in the back of his truck, and that he didn't have beer at work for after hours etc. I believe none of what he says and 1/2 of what I see. Told him that was probably for the best, and let it go. His issue. Not mine. I have plenty of my own issues to be getting on with!

We still share a checking account, so I see the trips to the liquor store, but I only notice it and move right on. I don't mention it and I don't think beyond seeing it.

He could be drinking himself into a stupor every night for all I know, but I just don't go there.

I know it's hard, but focus on YOU. You will sleep better for it. ; )