I love your tornado analogy. Keep that!!! He is a whirlwind right not and you can observe, but don't engage. (I liken my H as being in a pig-pen and I don't want to join him, whatever works).
Blu left a 2x4 on Alison's post several days ago, and since then I have been reading it and re-reading it! Also Sandi's rules every day. That has helped me with detachment. Hope you got a chance to read it!!
Happy that your GAL activities are bringing you joy!
ME47 XH44, S28 S24 S19
8/17-BD IHS: 1/17-2/19 D FILED (ME): 7/19 D FINAL: 10/20 M23 T25 OW CONFIRMED: 01/21
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
