Can I Save My Marriage Alone?

[CanBird]

I would encourage you to send him stuff about your daughter, pictures, stories, etc. While he may not want to deal with you right now, he will still notice sending him stuff about your daughter. It will mean something to him. Just don't try and sneak in a relationship talk, short wordy jabs, or other stuff. Make it a safe way to communicate instead of an off limits ineffective one.

Very sound advise.


You have been given a gift of time and space. Use it wisely. Focus on your personal growth.


Everything that works is so counter-intuitive.

I did send him a Father's Day card from daughter, with a photo & a picture she drew. He doesn't get mail right away, but it's always the thought that counts.

Next month I will do the same and send a birthday card, which isn't until mid August. As mentioned, it takes awhile for the mail to get to it's destination. This is our normal, we're use to it.

We share an Instagram account, it's for our daughter. He can see videos & pictures of her there. I'm don't bother sending him anything on his personal email or text. (unless my daughter asks me to) As for his work mail, that's for business or serious matters. I can't send photos via that email, due to the possibility of viruses.

YES we definitely have the gift of time and space. I truly believe that as well.

I also read the link you included above, thank you