Uni. I have had similar circumstances of W accusing of raising my voice at S1 son, after him refusing to listen when being firm and saying NO! When he's standing on top of the sofa. Eventually W got used to me reprimanding him, after we officially separated in the house. That when he's on my time I will parent him my way. Its called disciplining your children!!! For their own saftey In my book. If that scares your W, or it doesn't make her feel safe, or she finds that to be emotionally abusive. You've got much bigger problems. Once they have distanced themselves from you they will twist and turn their narrative any which way from Sunday to paint you as the bad guy especially in court I'm sure. (I've seen it happen with my brother in a very long 16 year custodial battle with him, his kids, and XW, where XW was neglectful to kids and made up all sorts of lies in court, pushing serious slander and allegations against brother that was not true. It took him 16 years a lot of bodily and legal damage to obtain custody of one of his daughters. The other was already emancipated.) You better pray you get a good reasonable non biased family court judge. One of my brothers biased judges was probably his fourth after changing venues over counties ironically at one time denied transport to my niece with my brother to our country home out of state. Despite the fact that my niece was raped by a friend of hers, at her mothers house, while my nieces Mom was home in the house getting drunk on wine. Ironically that same judge was later indicted years later for molesting kids as well. (Yeah I know F@$!ed up confusing story.) This XW of my brother is who my W and her family insisted on inviting to our wedding 10 years ago, because my nieces were the flower girls, 10 and 12 at time and my W wanted a built in babysitter so not to have "her day" interrupted. This sent shockwaves between my W and I and so had to handle the friction between the families, and mine and W's family at time. My W still identifies with XSIL. Ironically W now has no problem using my brother to babysit our S1 when we have to work since W's mother is incapacitated at the moment from surgery. Sorry for the long story. This is why I have a bias view so much here about people crying abuse and playing the victim and twisting reality. It better be real and it better be legitimate. Every woman deserves the freedom from any kind of abuse. But some play the victim card, either intentionally to be manipulative in court, or because of their exaggerated perceptions.
You better stay calm, don't over react to anything, and don't display any dramatic behaviors whatsoever.
If I were you I would cease all verbal communication with her at this point and L up at least for a consultation. She can't be trusted with her "victimization" status and mindset. I would choose your words very carefully from here on forward. I haven't gotten to family court yet. But im also wondering... The fact that I am in therapy IC I wonder if that would or could ever be used against me? I know my brother tried using his XW mental instability record against her after being institutionalised for knocking her own mother out after consuming kolonopin and vodka, all in front of the kids.
Again sorry for the stories. Just learned how to protect myself a little better from dissolving marriages and warped perceptions from brother's experiences.
