My W identifies with the abuse narrative. I pulled over the car in March, she was crying in MC about how she was terrified for her life. She brought up 2 incidents from the past 3 years where I was rough with my kids. One was I grabbed my son's leg in the backseat of the car because he was punching his sister. That was 10 months ago. I'm not saying these things were okay, they are not. But if she can't move past them, how can I trust that she is not going to go to court and label me as an abuser and f@#$ me over. She brought this stuff up right at the beginning of MC. I admitted to it in apology letters when I wanted to reconcile. I've worked on my issues in IC. It doesn't matter. If she thinks "UC is an ABUSER" then this MR is toast and I need to go full legal protections TODAY.
I agree I have the option to stay in the house. It might be a legal nightmare and it scares the hell out of me, but may be the right thing to do.
I'm just saying my sitch is not just my W claiming abuse. She said it in front of a MC. I admitted to these (what I think are isolated) incidents. I don't act that way anymore. It doesn't matter. It's a real problem. A good lawyer could fight it I'm sure, but if she's going to go down that route I need to be extra cautious. That's all I'm saying.
Uni, If I were in your position, I would be looking into hiring a lawyer. I would also try to find out if the MC can testify about what is discussed in your sessions.
Originally Posted by unchien
If she thinks "UC is an ABUSER" then this MR is toast and I need to go full legal protections TODAY.
Big difference between thinking and accusing you of it. It seems like you are saying she accused you of being an abuser in MC from what you wrote
I am not a lawyer nor know any details about the law in your state but reading through what you have written, these look like serious issues and in my opinion you would benefit from legal help.
