So so new to this :(

[peacetoday]

HI

Totally agree with DnJ
Obviously from OW responses..
she is not stable
Nothing good can come from any interaction with the OW and again I would guard all the kids from her
she only has and will always have her needs and agenda coming first
the kids are no one to her-

Talk to D
Make her aware of MLC
Dad is not bad..
OW is not Bad
THey are terribly wounded souls
We work to forgiveness
The kids have to see you striving for forgiveness
Nice words toward H
he is a good man..just sick
sometimes people get mentally ill
not your fault
he has unresolved childhood wounds


You become the sounding board of all communication for your kids
maybe a therapist also who gets teens and MLC

I would also explain to D the seriousness of threats especially these days-
and she can feel free to verbalize her anger and hate of OW to you

Heres where we have to be stronger than we are
Even when we are whirling with wounds ourselves---we have to be adult
We can give the kids facts in an adult way leaving our emotions for us and our therapist to deal with