It was my mistake. I was looking up someone different. It doesn’t seem like he’s lying. And pinn, I love Brene Brown and I will look that one up. I think I am vulnerable. I have to say, the texting and talking has been so much fun. And logically, I know how stupid it is to build things up but I just have some pretty good vibes so far. He might be more enthusiastic about me and I’m kind of going off that. Or maybe it’s just flirting. Or bored parents that don’t get out much and are looking for excitement and happiness.
I have an acquaintance (walk away female) that’s dating and gets annoyed when the guys text her too much. I love getting the texts and only get upset when they decrease . I always thought men hated them.
But I will let every one know how it goes. The other guy is starting to remind me of ex bf. Very similar scenario. Mom left and he raised a willful girl on his own. And he did take a bit of yenta stance with me when I wasn’t expressing concern over my son. It wasn’t rude more of a “don’t worry he will be fine after he talks to others going through this” but I wasn’t even expressing worry. He’s also a teacher so I’m sure that’s part of it. Iit just reminded me of the ex.
Juju... you sound a lot like me. I have very little experience dating as well... have been long term relationship girl my entire life. I had this idea that I would date a bunch of people and not get too attached to anyone. So...I had dates with eight different guys...all of whom were really nice and I think pretty decent people. Six of them I did not want a second date with, one became a friend and the last one, the only one I had decided beforehand would NOT be a boyfriend but I’d meet “for fun” is the guy I’ve been seeing. I haven’t been on the dating websites since our third date so this fantasy I had of being a modern woman and dating multiple people went straight out the window. Honestly...it is just not who I am and I think it would be way too much work.
I know what you mean about it being fun and a good distraction. It was exactly what I needed to remind me that there are other men out there who would find me attractive and vice versa. It was a real eye opener. So...have fun, be safe and pay attention to that inner voice of yours. (((HUGS)))
It was a really nice date. Some chemistry. He is definitely a good guy. And it’s funny how the universe works. Ex bf was opposite of husband and this guy is so opposite of ex bf. He made me feel really good. He was very positive and easygoing and expressed himself really well. He was so complimentary I felt like I was a celebrity. But not in a player sort of way. So I’m definitely going to go out with him again. But it feels weird for me to talk to and date other guys at the same time. I know that’s what’s healthy but I’m the relationship girl as well. The only red flag is that I wonder if he building me up in his mind because he likes how I look? But he really made me feel very beautiful. It was a really good feeling
I’m so glad it went great! But remember , you aren’t actually dating these guys yet. You are getting to know them. And you’ll know when there is one you want to actually date, you’ll stick to one.
Glad it went well Juju!! I think if you are open and honest and attuned to your emotions, things will work themselves out over time. I agree with Ginger. You will just naturally stick to one and there’s nothing wrong with that. Dating can be quite time consuming so I’m with Pinn... it would be hard to do. I think you shouldn’t put pressure on yourself either way. If you really like this guy, there’s nothing wrong with only going out with him for the time being. There’s lots of time to meet others if it doesn’t work out.
So not having gone on a single date in 15 years, I am intrigued by this comment. Can you share specifically what he did or said that made you feel beautiful and comfortable? I am not trying to steal or just use tactics, I am genuinely interested in how you do this initially and not use stupid compliments. I know I am better than that, but just curious what this guy did to make you feel so good. I am going to be such a dumb noob when I start dating lol.
Just be careful. B told me about one of her dates where they guy "said all the right things". Bad sex on date #3 happened that she regretted. He lived in a beat up camper trailer. There was no date 4.
Most of the guys she went out with were just after a quick lay which only this one guy got.
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