My D14 found the OW on Instagram and had sent her messages last night. She was not nice to her, but not really rude either. At first. The message was basically asking the OW why she chose to be with a married man who has 3 kids.
The OW reply was immature and just wrong. She was saying that my D14 needs to talk to her like an adult and respectfully, that D14 doesn't know the whole story, and that's why it's easy for her to blame the OW (I wish I knew the whole story)
She was disrespectful towards my daughter who then lost her cool and sent many mean messages, my D14 told her that she only respects good people and OW is not a good person and that respect is earned. (The OW replied that respect is not earned but jealousy is. (What does that even mean)) In the end my daughter ended the messaging by telling her that if the OW moves in with her dad, she will burn the house down and stab her to death.
This is not the girl we raised, there's so much anger there now. I talked with her and told her that she has a right to feel angry, but she shouldn't waste her time on the OW anymore, she's better than that, and it won't change things.
Now this morning my H sends me a message saying that we need to talk with D14 as she's sending threatening messages to kill people. Basically he is asking me to step in when he feels that D14 is being mean to his girlfriend.
He doesn't know that D14 already told me about the messaging and showed me the texts. I don't know what to reply to him. This is his mess, my relationship with D14 is fine, she was wrong in threatening to kill the OW, but she is also a teenager who's very angry and I already talked with her about it. Any thoughts on what to say or do?
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