Steve85, Unichen, AS, Davide and LH. This is why I love you guys, your time, and your responses in throwing ideas around here. You see what I am saying is truth, and agree with it to a certain extent. But it is a part truth. You challenge my thoughts and my beliefs in a healthy way, through in different perspectives and ideas, and it keeps me grounded, and my mind from getting tunnel vision. And that is really what I think we all need on here. To your last post Steve, I never thought about it that way with the percentages. That's a fair and hypothetical assessment. People csn find ways to make things work as well within a family unit f they prioritize correctly. These are all great examples of broadening of the mind. Ill stop painting everything with such a broad brush.
I've been listening to Eckart Tolle all day while S1 is napping after visiting MIL from recovery surgery. I started to beat myself up that I wasn't doing anything productive, but then I was like? Its a rainy day. S1 is sleeping. Why am I angry with myself and why do I keep doing that? Applying pressure to myself? His videos are amazing at reframing your beliefs and thoughts. Definately time well spent. Definately happy and light hearted that I am seeing the world through a different lens today.
Steve85 I am in IC but not Marital IC. Its IC for BPD. Its been helping as far as emotional regulation, and challenging yhoughts and beliefs. But this Eckart Tolle stuff is just blowing me away, and unravelling my tunnel vision of the world and thoughts. I was familiar with his books from 14 years ago, but obviously stopped when I got involved with W.
