Crumbs and Cake

[Ready2Change]

Ok no reaction from me, stay quiet, listen to what he says validate and ask him to leave, what if he comes already angry?.

Validate his emotions.


H:"BLA BLA BLA BLA!!!!"
W:"You sound angry"
H:"BLA BLA BLA BLA because of YOU!!!"
W"I am sorry you feel that way"
H:"BLA BLA BLA BLA!!!!"
W"I understand you feel that way"
H:"BLA BLA BLA BLA!!!!"
H:"BLA BLA BLA BLA!!!!"
H:"BLA BLA BLA BLA!!!!"



W"I will need time to process everything you have said"

W"I have things I need to take care of. I think it is time for you to leave."

H"I am not leaving"

W"You moved out. You do not live here anymore"

H"I pay for bla bla bla"

W"I understand that. You chose to leave while you still have those responsibilities"

H"I am not going anywhere"

W:"I am. Goodbye" then leave the house." Come back an hour later. If he is there, ask him to leave again. Repeat above. If you have to leave, go for the night.