Some separations end in reconciliation. It’s impossible to know if mine would. Most don’t. I know this. But predicting the fate of mine is basically impossible.
I sense that you are trying to justify to yourself that accepting her terms and leaving is the right thing because you think there might be a ray of hope that it will save your M. YOU ARE WRONG. Sorry to be so blunt, but you are very hard-headed. You get advice from multiple people who have walked your road and are the wiser for it, and you continue to say "oh but my situation is different and requires different action." This is what you did regarding MC, and it's what you're doing now regarding S. Your situation is absolutely, positively NOT different. If you leave your wife is going to laugh at how wimpy of a pushover you are, mark my words.
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Anyways... the advice to let her walk and keep the house is the same to me as filing for D.
NO IT'S NOT. It's you saying "whatever you do is your choice, but I am not helping." I'm a little perplexed that you don't seem to understand this. You are just staying, nothing more. You tell her you wish she would stay and work on the M but if she chooses to leave you won't stop her. SHE IS THE ONE THAT LEAVES. If she says "fine then I'm filing for D" then rest assured, that was her plan all along anyway. But she knows if she moves out and files for D it puts her in a difficult position in court, whereas if YOU leave then she's in a much better position to keep the home and gain primary custody of the kids.
IF YOU LEAVE YOU WILL REGRET IT IN WAYS YOU CAN'T IMAGINE RIGHT NOW.
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Me insisting I stay in the house is going to be unhealthy for me, my kids, and her. The past few months have been enough.
