The no dating thing is my rule if we separate. We didn’t even discuss it yet. I doubt it will be an issue.
I recognize that separation is also firing me as her H. If I accept it under whatever terms, I also need to NOT act as if this 6 month period is to “save” my marriage.
I need time to process everything honestly. Some separations end in reconciliation. It’s impossible to know if mine would. Most don’t. I know this. But predicting the fate of mine is basically impossible. If I felt “oh this is just a soft divorce” then I would say let’s just file and get on with it.
It is a crappy position. It’s all on me right now. She did not take any ownership other than agreeing (reluctantly) that our communication is awful. The MC kept pointing this out to her. I told my W last night regardless of our outcome this has to be addressed for our kids sake. I was assertive in a way I haven’t been before.
Anyways... the advice to let her walk and keep the house is the same to me as filing for D. She self identifies as having PTSD for past abuse. Me insisting I stay in the house is going to be unhealthy for me, my kids, and her. The past few months have been enough.
