The thing is tho, he has already told you --with his actions and words over time -- that he is not in this with you. He left you and he treats you poorly. You already know that. You deserve someone that is willing to change and commit to you. Stop taking his table scraps and thinking by talking more they will become the full course meal. You gotta value yourself more than taking his crumbs, sister.
The only way to get him back is to turn the other cheek and let him go. If he were recommitting to you, remorseful and willing to do anything to save this M, you would already know. I'm sorry to say that, but you would. There would be no reason so set up a time to talk about it. Because HE would be apologizing, pursuing you and trying all on his own. That is what happens when men come back to their Ws and you will know when it is happening! You cannot force him with your timeline. Often men won't do that until they think they have lost you. Blu
I am gonna go ahead and count this one for myself as well. Wow. This is SO true and I felt it like a punch to the gut when I read it. None of the mind reading/word dissecting/ or microscopic shifts are meaningful at all. If they were trying to come back, we’d know it. I’m suddenly reminded of the saying “he’s just not that into you” as it applies to women who make 1 billion excuses for when a guy doesn’t call after a few dates. UGH. I feel somewhat liberated and also quite ill. This was exactly what I needed at this point. Thank you Blu!
